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bezzabsa:
been through that too, my son was 8 months old when my 1st wife said she wanted a divorce, really hit me hard especially as her new 'friend' was a friend of mine - and she moved him in a week after we split!
been 13 years now and we still cant have a civil conversation - to the point that I no longer even attempt  to speak to her, thought it easier on me and my son!
Give your wife room and time and she will makeher own mind up - if you appear to be 'crowding' her she may make the wrong decidion.
Good luck, and keep optimistic

simdeb:
it's hard when a family spilts up, but in my experence with simon after so long he will do anything which iinvloves off-roading like shows, weekends away even pub meets but when i ask him to say take the dogs a short walk he's not intrested and makes any excuse.  one night last week i asked him to walk up to my mums and on the way back we'd call for a bag of chips he actually said yes. sometimes i think we can all think that i can't be bothered but sometimes we all need to bother about the other person in the relationship (landlooney this isn't aimed at you) i'm not having a go at anyone but from going to meetings and weekends i feel that i am not the only one who gets this response either. i've had depreesion too, its awful as any one whos had it can agree, i'm lucky as when i feel it coming i do make changes as i never want to feel that way again.  as our close freind know we've had some problems recent but are trying to work through them at present all is going well but it is hard to sort out what you don't like anymore about a relationship.

LIKE I SAID BEFORE i am not having a go at anybody just putting my side forward

debbie

discograham:
I don't know where to begin. I do know exactly how you feel though as something similar happened to me about four years ago. Il'e pm you my "story".. only because it may help you though these terrible times.. there is a light... I guess you can't see it yet, but it does come on in the end, and the pain fades..it never goes, but it does dull somewhat.
One word of warning... if you find you can't sleep, don't think that one little drink will help, even for just one night... for sure, it will take the pain away of a fashion, but it is a one way route and you can't allow yourself to go there....
PM coming up....

Colin 009:
landyloony

get down to Heathrow on monday and

Come to Thialand with me,  :lol:  :wink: That'll help you forget about your troubles.

freeagent:
i know how you feel, it happened to me a few years back, although we had no kids, she wanted out, and we didn't even speak for 10 months, then a chance meeting got us talking again and 2 years later we are planning our wedding.

i had no intention of ever even speaking to her again until we bumped into each other...

all i can suggest in your situation right now is give her some space, its realy hard, not picking up the phone, or sending a quick text, but i can asure you it'll make you feel worse if you hastle her.. and you need to think about yourself at the moment.... try and see your friends, even if its just for a quick pint, all the time you are busy you are not staring at your mobile waiting for it to ring.

don't try to divide your mutual friends, just tell everone the truth, even if it makes you look bad, everyone will hear different stuff from either side, but if you tell it like it is, you won't look a fool at a later date...

talk to people about it, your friends and family will understand, just be carefull not to wear them down...

try to picture a point in the future when you can imagine yourself being at peace with the situation, then try to draw that time closer, plan things to do with your life, don't think about other relationships, just concerntrate on healing yourself.....

oh, and when you feel better, go to evening classes, i re-did my english GCSE and the class was full of super late 20's lasses who were trying to better themselves... this is without a doubt the best place to pull... :D

when my life was falling appart, my mum told me that relationships were the hardest thing that lfe throws in front of you.... and my god she was right....

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