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the loon:
Nothing connected with MC in anyway what so ever but I need to make an announcement.

It seems that me and SWMBO are no longer a couple. Last week she moved out and took the kids with her.

As you may or may not know she had been receiving cancer treatment for the last three years and has told me that she  now wants “different things from life” and it seems our marriage isn’t one of them.
I am to say the least totally gutted. This came totally out of the blue  with no indication of how she felt.
I came home from work and found a “Dear John….” note on the table and all her stuff and most of the kids things gone.
I’ve since spoken to her and the doctor has diagnosed depression and prescribed her medication.
But worse was to come. I called her on Thursday and she told me she was taking the kids away with her for a few days so she could sort herself out. No problems with this myself but asked her when she was intending to tell me as I wanted to see the kids at the weekend . No answer.
So I manage to get out of her that she was going away to her parents friends caravan near Whitby.
I’ve spoken to her this morning but she was less than chatty and now her mobiles off so have left her a couple of answer phone messages.
If anyone has been in a similar situation how did you get through it? I have no idea what bought this on with her. I so want to talk to her but it seems she doesn’t want to know and I feel like every thing we have been through together in the last 10 years of our relationship means nothing.
She says she still wants me as a friend but is this how you treat a friend?

dew1911:
Gutted for you mate :( My parents split 2 years ago now and to say it hurts would be the understatement of the century. I ended up spending a week off school because I just couldn't stop crying.

You've just got to keep a strong face (Hard I know), And make sure you are their for the kids, they'll need you to be a rock for them now, as it will be as tough for them as it is for you.

Damonski:
Must be the latest fashion trend ;)

Will PM yay

Edge:
Gutted for you Neil.

Been through the same myself :cry: , ended up arguing with her and that made things much/much worse.
I now wish i'd given her a bit of space and my blessing (wishing her happiness in her choices in life),

Cant suggest how to deal with it, as i found i couldnt deal with it myself...

Best thing would be to offer her your support in any choices she makes, as its much better to stay good friends than end up like me.

Don't stay in dwelling on things.... you need to keep busy.

UDTrev:
Good luck,

Sorry to hear your news, I hope all goes well for you.


Trev

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